Here is a list of the gifts I recently received: a T-shirt showing Hanukkah in five different ways. "What will Jeff Goldblum do?" A scratched scrub towel with a picture of two friends in a descending position; and another shirt with the attractiveness of Professor Snape.
Most of them talk about my specific concerns, Jewish holidays, the wonderful Beatful blend, and the late late Alan Rickman. The gifts were sent by well-informed friends and families who wanted simply to pay tribute to my reconciliation. They probably thought they were creative.
But this is the thing: there is no way to use these products. They end up where all the "ridiculous" and / or personal gifts of their existence are living: a scrap pile.
All these offers have the same trajectory: a brief moment where I wear them to be photographed for one effort is to include them in an electronic thank-you note. This is the most widely used usage. Each time, the donor assumes that I may wear "around the house", without realizing that the products with cheap prices are not smooth and therefore can not qualify for restroom clothes, let alone sleepwear.
Worse, since they are dedicated, you can not even donate many of these gifts to fame. Instead, they end up in a stairway that accumulates dust.
Unfortunately, people who choose customized gifts are going out of their way to offer something Believe To be thoughtful. But we need to rethink what a "thoughtful" qualification is. What exactly is your adult friend who still loves Britney Spears doing with this printed pillow? That sister who is obsessed with John Stamos does not necessarily want to show off her beautiful face on her shirt.
What drives this phenomenon to give gifts? For starters, sites such as Etsy, Zazzle and CustomInk made it very easy for us to request custom gifts, without considering where they end up. In my experience, the future sends "OMG, very funny" thanks before complaining to his wife that something functionally – even a packet of milk – would have been more appreciated. Fast and cheap shipping expectation may also play a role; very easy to find cheap gifts online, press "send", get a gift in a day or two.
Which leads me to the biggest problem with a flow of "personal" folly: it is a waste of money. Our world is drowned in a waste of rubbish: more than 11 million tons of clothing, footwear and recyclable textiles are thrown into landfills each year. The holiday season has a role in that. A recent survey found that 56% of Americans admit to receiving at least one unwanted gift, totaling $ 13 billion on nearly 142 million shitty gifts each year.
So, come on this year, give something useful remotely. There are ways to be funny and practical! For example, a coffee mug with a classic jug of Kanye West can make the morning routine more enjoyable. If you can not resist asking for something personal, what about a framed picture or a photo calendar? If you really want to reach the above, do something yourself, such as jam or rub your body or bone sauces. What about a song or video? A close friend of mine makes beautiful hand-painted postcards – things I care about, like Beyonce – for the sole purpose of decorating the seasonal refrigerator.
If you send something personal or "funny", make it small, like a keychain or magnet. It should not be a muzzle the gift. Buy – or better – make your loved ones something they really want or need. Then, by all means, go higher with the fabulous Christmas card Chris Jenner.